The Oxford Dictionary defines imperfect as an adjective, meaning: not perfect; faulty or incomplete. Do you ever feel like this is the definition of your life as well? I know I do. I look around my house at the dirty dishes, the clutter, and the never-ending mountain of laundry and I tend to get discouraged very quickly. I log on Pinterest and Facebook and see pictures of these spotless homes and the beautiful women who live in them and instantly begin to think “If only…”.
Today is the end of the comparisons, of getting discouraged, and of feeling “faulty or incomplete”. I’m writing this to me and to the women out there who are feeling just like me. Will we still have bad days? Oh my yes! As we enter this holiday season though we’re going to briefly look at how God views us and how to look at the world just a little bit differently. This is a lesson that has been a long time coming for me and in the past few months of pregnancy and getting ready for motherhood I’ve really been learning a lot about myself – some stuff that I like and others I don’t like so much. I am so excited to share with you today what I’ve learned and am continuing to learn.
I’d like to take a look at one of my favorite Bible passages in Psalm. I’m only going to use a passage of the chapter today but if you have time, the entire chapter of Psalm 139 is a wonderful read. The Bible say says
” For you shaped me, inside and out. You knitted me together in my mother’s womb long before I took my first breath. I will offer you my grateful heart, for I am your unique creation, filled with wonder and awe. You have approached even the smallest details with excellence; your works are wonderful; I carry this knowledge deep within my soul. You see all things; nothing about me was hidden from you. As I took shape in secret, carefully crafted in the heart of the earth before I was born from its womb. You see all things; You saw me growing, changing in my mother’s womb; Ever detail of my life was already written in Your book; You established the length of my life before I ever tasted the sweetness of it. Your thoughts and plans are treasure to me, O God! I cherish each and every one of them! How grand in scope! How many in number!” (Psalm 139: 13-17, The Voice)
Take a minute and reread that and really think about it. We are God’s unique creations, carefully crafted by God, and living only because we have a God who has thoughts and plans specifically for us. We were NOT made faulty and incomplete. Next time you are feeling “less than”, I encourage you to go back and read this passage.
So we’ve talked about how God views us, now lets talk briefly about how we can look at the world around us a little bit differently. First and often foremost in our minds is that habit of comparing our bodies to the women on the magazine covers and the TV. The important facts to remember here are #1 there are very few pictures of magazine cover models that are not edited in some way, and #2 these women on magazines and TV are paid to look the way they do and just because they are pretty doesn’t mean they are happy. Next, lets look into comparing our home care to those pictures on Pinterest and Facebook. It’s taken me a long time to stop comparing my house to theirs but it became easier when I really sat down and thought about why and how their homes look the way they do: #1 many of these women most likely have housekeepers and/or interior designers, #2 these women depend on the way their homes look to entertain important guests and the pictures they don’t show are the “after the party” pictures.
Are you seeing what I’ve been learning? If you really sit down and think about it we don’t have to possess the media’s idea of the perfect body or the perfectly manicured home and gardens. We will always, and should always, strive to be the best version of ourselves that we should be, but that doesn’t mean perfection. Some days we may sit and read, watch TV, and browse Facebook when we should be cleaning but at the end of the day as long as our families are happy, our hubbies and kids have clean clothes to wear, clean dishes to eat from, and no one is having health problems due to the accumulated dust, that’s what’s really important, right? Once we realize what is really important in life and stop the comparisons, we can live life so much fully. We may look and seem imperfect to the world’s standards but God carefully crafted us to be His unique creations. I am a proud Perfectly-Made-By-God member of the imperfect club! Will you join me this holiday season as I strive to stop stressing about how I and my house look and focus instead on time with family and friends?